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"Awake, oh North wind,
and come, oh South wind!
Blow upon my garden,
and let its spices flow."
SOS 4:16

We have been reading and following this couple share their love story, and in ch 3:6 they begin to reminisce about their wedding day.
Solomon arrives in style and they begin to compliment each other in the weirdest ways - at least culturally to us this goes into a series of strange compliments. But understanding the historic background, the traditions etc can help bring richness out of these things. But that is not what we will focus on!

In chapter 4 verse 12 he compliments her virginity and integrity:
"A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed."

She kept herself for marriage and this couple can look back over their dating and courting with purity. But with marriage the garden is unlocked and the fountain unsealed. In verse 17 (ch4) we don't read the usual call that we do not stir up or awaken love until its time, oh no. Rather we read:

"Awake, oh North wind,
and come, oh South wind!
Blow upon my garden,
and let its spices flow."

It is very clear that Scripture's teaching here is that once the vows have been made and a couple are married it IS TIME to stir up and awaken physical love, and as the old Hebrew word hints at, intertwine our souls one with another through love making.

Many scholars believe that ch5vs1b is God speaking into marriage "eat friends, drink, and be drunk with love."

"Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
turn, my beloved, and be like a gazelle
or a young stag on the twin mountains."

 The esv calls the mountains in question the cleft mountains but the meaning is the same. In Israel there are no cleft mountains and there are no twin mountains.

This wife is calling her husband to be like a stag in the full enjoyment of Proverbs 5:18&19 "Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice in the wife of your youth, let her breasts" (the twin mountains) "fill you at all times with delight, be intoxicated always in her love."

 When you are intoxicated do you know what you are? Out of control, you are consumed by something.
Other than the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 5:18) i can think of no other place in the Bible we are told to be filled, driven or intoxicated by something and yet here in proverbs and rooted in sos we find God declaring that a husbands sexual intoxication by his wife is good.

My beloved speaks and says to me:
“Arise, my love, my beautiful one,
 and come away, for behold, the winter is past;
the rain is over and gone.
The flowers appear on the earth,
 the time of singing has come,
 and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land..."

I'm pointing to chapter 2 verses 9-14 but I've only quoted verses 10-12 above because I think it holds a great summary of these verses.

Tender Words
Look at how tenderly this man speaks to the young lady; my love, my beautiful one, my dove etc are all very romantic and tender terms. This man is a great example in how we men should treat our wives with our words. Abuse is not limited to the physical sin of men towards their families, but also and perhaps as damaging are the words we speak. When we consider the words of Jesus when He declared that out of the abundance of the heart so the mouth speaks, our words are a huge indication of our level of love and intimacy in a relationship.

In Spring
The man describes their love as being like spring, the rain is gone, flowers are budding forth and it is a time for singing. New relationships can often seem like spring, yet as the years go by we may describe a marriage as more like the blizzard of winter or the scorching of summer. But not so with this couple at this point. It is all new, all butterflies in the tummy and laughter at even the worst jest.
We will return to spring as we hit later passages and particularly later years in this couples marriage.

We men must do our best to keep that springtime romance alive. This isn't easy because we men tend to drop romance once the ring is on the finger. And quite often our creativity seems to die as a relationship goes on. But this should not be the case.